Goodnight Mom

  A belated Father's Day post still counts, right? I've been thinking a lot about fatherhood lately. I heard a statistic that in the 1980s, 43% of fathers said they had never changed a diaper. Today, that number is around 3%. It's a striking statistic, but I don't think it's really about diapers.  It's about showing up. I don't think there's one blueprint for what makes a “good father”, and I certainly don't think every family needs one. Love, stability, and belonging can come from many places and many people.  But my boys have a father, and he's a really, really good one. He's there. When we found out Max was breech, Steve became an instant researcher, reading everything he could so we could make decisions together. When I was caught in the fog of postpartum hormones and anxiety, I became desperate to make breastfeeding work with Max. Looking back, it's so clear that I couldn't see what was happening. He needed formula and I needed p...